When Friends Depart • Greg Davis
“If when we die we just go back to the dirt, well, then nothing matters. But if the Christian story is true — that Jesus died and rose again — then everything matters,” says the Newsboys’ lead singer Peter Furler.
If Jesus died and rose again it means every one of us is heading for one of two destinations, according to C. S. Lewis: being “immortal horrors or everlasting splendours.”
My friend Greg Davis lost his battle with esophageal cancer this week. But he won a more significant campaign. Greg loved Jesus. And Greg lived as though he weren’t just returning to dirt. He lived as though he were destined to become an everlasting splendour.
I’ve known few people as gifted in so many areas — and so unwilling to trumpet his abilities. Raised in Liberia by missionaries from the U.S. (his dad was a bush pilot), Greg responded to God’s call to the nations by equipping himself for ministry and going to Ireland as a missionary. When his marriage fell apart and he found himself a single dad, he took up counseling. His pastoring was characterized by an unusual capacity to care for the discarded and ignored — thus, I think, our mutual love for French artist Georges Rouault.
Along the way Greg found he had a knack for photography and for wordsmithing — so he published a book of his photos and poems, Windows of the Heart: Poetry & Photographs (Writers Press, 2002). Because nobody else around him seemed to understand how to make their computers work, he learned “information technology” (even figuring how PCs work — to Greg, that anybody would use anything but a Mac was proof of radical depravity). Though he felt his IT ability was as much a curse as a gift, he gave himself selflessly to helping others use digital technology (“Well, the basic reason your computer’s not working is that it’s not plugged in”).
A couple of months after I started leading worship at Orangewood, I felt it was time to bring a little art into our “sanctinasium” (sanctuary/gymnasium/school auditorium). It’s one thing for reformed people to have a lean aesthetic — but gym aesthetics are beyond lean. I’d say more like off-puttingly utilitarian — without even the hauntingly mysterious potential of catacombs. In support of lyrics that particular Sunday I projected some art I use in classroom teaching, and I did so with a singular set of fears: that the congregation would find the art helpful but me unable to find the time to provide the art from week to week. “Lord, I offer this to you — but if it’s going to be more than a one shot deal, you’re going to have to do something.”
No sooner did the service end than a short, bald, bearded guy walked up to me: “Hey, I just started working at the church part-time in IT … but my real interest is art … if you have any interest in doing more of what you did this morning, I think I might be able to help.”
Little in ministry has given me more pleasure over the last four years than brainstorming with a gifted and godly worship team about how readings, segues, songs, prayers, sacraments and sermons can complement each other — and then sitting back to watch Greg create slide backgrounds, videos, poetry, and handouts to make a whole that’s greater than the sum of its parts. See his corpus at writeclik.com. His visual point of departure might be a Vermeer or a Rembrandt or a Rouault or a cathedral or a train station or a worked-metal cross atop an Istanbul church or a neon-lit cross in front of an Orlando rescue mission. His imaginative capacity and theological depth and biblical breath were astonishing. And his friendship irreplaceable.
A week before his death we sang, “Be Still My Soul,” and I could barely get through it because I knew my friend would soon be departing:
Be still, my soul: the Lord is on your side.
Bear patiently the cross of grief or pain;
leave to your God to order and provide;
in ev’ry change he faithful will remain.
Be still, my soul: your best, your heav’nly Friend
through thorny ways leads to a joyful end.Be still, my soul: your God will undertake
to guide the future as He has the past.
Your hope, your confidence let nothing shake;
all now mysterious shall be bright at last.
Be still, my soul: the waves and winds still know
His voice who ruled them while he dwelt below.Be still, my soul: when dearest friends depart,
and all is darkened in the vale of tears.
Then shall you better know his love, his heart,
who comes to soothe your sorrow and your fears.
Be still, my soul: your Jesus can repay
from His own fullness all He takes away.Be still, my soul: the hour is hast’ning on
when we shall be forever with the Lord.
when disappointment, grief, and fear are gone,
sorrow forgot, love’s purest joys restored.
Be still, my soul: when change and tears are past,
all safe and blessed we shall meet at last.
The second most enjoyable thing I’ve done in the last two years (the first was gator hunting last year) was going to the U2 Vertigo concert in Miami as Greg’s guest (thus the “vintage” post elsewhere on this site, “BB&BB: The Beat Goes On”). So I know the sign-off Greg would prefer is from his favorite Irish theologian, Bono:
Grace
It’s a name for a girl
It’s also a thought that changed the world.
What once was hurt
What once was friction
What left a mark
No longer stings
Because grace makes beauty
Out of ugly things.





Be still, my soul: the Lord is on your side.
Grace
This is a lovely and sensitive tribute to a friend, Reggie. I am very moved to read it. As I always feel when I read about someone like your friend Greg, I wish I had known him, too. What a hope we have that we will all know and be known when we get to the other side! Thanks for ministering from your own grief, portraying our hope in what appears in this world to be darkness. He is risen indeed.
Comment by Emily Williams — September 15, 2007 @ 7:12 pm
Beautiful.
Comment by Vicki — September 16, 2007 @ 4:46 pm
Reggie, so sorry to hear of the loss of your friend; it appears it was a tremendous loss to the Church and the world as well. Thanks for your words, it’s a great tribute.
Comment by brian prentiss — September 16, 2007 @ 6:00 pm
RMK:
Your words about Greg are deeply touching. I cannot help myself but my mind is drawn back to your powerful soulful words lamenting the loss of my little brother when I returned from Mount Hood with my broken heart—and I weep again. To lose a friend or a brother is painful beyond mere words. Death is fiendish and violates everything. It is not supposed to be this way. I know you know about this throbbing sorrow and that is why your words jump through the internet right into my heart. When the Lord deigns it wise to bring me home, I hope to hear (from afar) your gravelly voice singing a mournful Dylan dirge (no up-tempo triumphalist hymns please). Rock on dear brother.
FAJ
Comment by Frank James — September 17, 2007 @ 4:41 am
FAJ,thanks. Dylan would tell you to rock on too:
In the fury of the moment
I can see the Master’s hand
In every leaf that trembles,
In every grain of sand.
RMK
Comment by Administrator — September 17, 2007 @ 6:58 am
Reggie,
Thanks for the touching tribute to Greg. I had the privilege of speaking with Greg on only a couple of occasions. The one I remember most was after I made a presentation to the O-wood staff. Greg gave some reflective and sensitive comments about the issue on which I had spoken, and even sent an e-mail to one of his former seminary prof’s to help gather some information for me. It was that sensitivity and willingness to help that made the greatest impression on me. He will be missed even by people, like me, who only wished they had known him better.
Comment by Chris — September 17, 2007 @ 6:28 pm
Reggie,
Greg introduced me to your blog when you and he began collaborating on worship for the church. I have finally brought myself to read your blog once again since Greg got his wings; it has been a month. I will keep you and the worship team in my thoughts and prayers, especially on Tuesdays and Sundays. You were an amazing friend to him. You two could speak and share on the same level of giftedness, encouraging the rest of us to raise our thoughts and eyes higher to the creator of our earthly world. Reading your words today gave me great comfort to know that you are still here. Thank you for sharing your heart…..and being there to the earthly end for Greg.
God’s blessing and comfort to you,
Anita Barnes
Comment by anita — October 14, 2007 @ 6:19 pm
Anita,
You were an angel of mercy to Greg.
Blessings to you, my sister.
Reggie
Comment by Administrator — October 14, 2007 @ 7:37 pm
Reggie,
This is Brenton, Greg’s cousin. We went to the U2 concert together. I appreciate what you have put together for Greg. I had an amazing short time with him this summer, as I came back from Kenya to see him. Maybe we can keep in touch. That night in Miami was so special, especially thinking about Greg being gone. We have to treasure each moment don’t we? Blessings on you. Walk on…
Comment by Brenton Correll — January 3, 2008 @ 5:08 am
Reggie,
I just want to thank you so much for this blog. I find myself awake at odd hours on occasion just searching for something to remind me of my dad. I almost always come across this blog entry and I thank God for it. It’s been years since he passed, but your words still help me understand that he is in such a better place when it doesn’t seem to make sense.
Again, Thank you and God bless,
Arianna
Comment by Arianna — September 29, 2009 @ 3:08 am